I’ll start this with a story. During my years of formal education, I attended college as an engineering major. Engineering is a very technical subject, so you learn to deal in spaces where an answer is either right or wrong— there’s not much room for opinion.

One year I would take non-technical elective class in “General Studies” department.

One day I’ll tell you the story of how I became biased, and how I lost that bias. But it ghave me insight on how others see the world.

We tell people too go to the systems that handle abuse.

The systems are broken.

Therefore the people don’t actually know what the solve is.

Cause if the system was working it would work. You wouldn’t buy a blender that maybe worked sometimes sorta on Wednesdays 15% of the time. That would be silly. So then, in popular knowledge we don’t actually have a solve for abuse.

We can call this something else. Familiar.

So if the known

Here’s what I want to offer. The solution for abuse will look unfamiliar. And because it looks unfamiliar, the general public will likely think that it is wrong and they will reject it.

Also, abusers will be threatened by it when they see it. So they’ll often be the loudest to reject it.